Why You Need to RUN AWAY When He is Pursuing You!

By: Sarah Love

Dating, boiled down, is a question of being able to make someone want something. How to make someone want something is not something we often think about, however, it is something we NEED to think about if you really want to make attraction WORK for you.

Not many among us are born with the true gift of gab, like salespeople have. We cannot effectively sell something, describing its intrinsic value and convincing them that they cannot live without it. You are not an item, either, that can be offered with a free trial or money back guarantee.

What makes an individual place value on an item most of the time is rarity. Think about a precious gem for instance. Emeralds, rubies, diamonds - they cost so much because they are not easily accessible. They must be looked for, found, dug up. Because of that, they are highly valued and treasured. I, for one, want to be a diamond!

What you need to understand is that you ARE the precious gem. If you want to remain appealing and exciting to a guy, you need to imagine yourself as priceless, extraordinary and WANTED. Remember the last thing you just HAD to have? Maybe it was some new gadget like an iPod or a new Juke phone. You thought about it all the time, you were totally psyched to get it and thought the price was certainly worth it. Then after you had it for a while, it was still great, but you thought about it less and less until you finally either forgot about it or use it without even realizing it.

Once the anticipation is gone, unless there is true substance to a relationship, the attraction fades as well. If you think about this in terms of a relationship with a man, if you let him catch you before the relationship has really begun, then the attraction will soon perish as well.

So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and "tamed" is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.

How do you get him to chase you, though? First of all - you withhold the carrot. DO NOT have sex with him until you are certain you are actually IN a relationship. For men - sex does not make a relationship. Sex is sex. To women, though, sex makes it a relationship. So to avoid getting hurt, do not have sex with him until you have what YOU want from him.

Next, try to leave him wanting more with the little things. The next time you and he are really having a great conversation, end it a little early. Don't wait until it naturally tapers off, cut it off before that. This way, he will be left wanting more - thinking about you and your connection, and anticipating talking to you again.

You can also do simple things like not answer the phone when he calls. Give him a few hours to stew in it, and then call him back. You are a BUSY, sought after woman. Don't agree to the first date he suggests, tell him you are busy that night, but suggest a different night. Do you see what I am getting at here? You need to let him CHASE you.

Scarcity adds value - and you are a valuable treasure. The great thing is, these tactics can be used to attract a man in the beginning, but they can also be used to keep the attraction in the relationship alive and blooming after the newness has worn off.